Christian code of conduct for dating
It is both the means by which children are conceived (something very close to God’s heart) and a means by which marital intimacy is expressed and cultivated.
When it takes place in its proper context, God is definitely pro-sex. Like all good gifts from God, sex can be misused and perverted.
I’ve developed the following material and presented it to many young people and their parents over many years.
When my now married daughters were teenagers, I honed it further for sharing and discussion with them and the young men who asked to date them.
(Each time we did this, of course, it further reinforced these principles for our daughters and for us.) “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God.” (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5). Sex was created by the holy God of heaven, where purity reigns.
God made sex physically desirable by creating us with sex drives, without which sex wouldn’t exist and neither would people.
Apart from marriage, the lasting commitment is absent and the sex act becomes a false expression, a lie.
Having consistently practiced this when they were dating, it was impossible for us and for our daughters to imagine them dating a young man without first openly addressing with him all the principles that follow.Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place.(Ephesians 5:3-4) God designed sex for the sacred union of marriage, and reserves it for that union.“But we really love each other” has no bearing on the ethics of sexual intimacy—sex does not become permissible through subjective feelings, but through the objective lifelong commitment of marriage. Your sexual purity is essential to your walk with God. There is no sense seeking God’s will in other areas when you are choosing to live in sexual impurity in your mind or body. If you are not living in sexual purity, God will not hear your other prayers until you offer the prayer of confession and repentance and commit yourself to a life of holiness (1 John 1:9). And if you don’t think it can, it almost certainly will.
Sexual purity is not an option for an obedient Christian, it’s a requirement. "Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.” (Proverbs ) "So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall! watch yourself, or you also may be tempted.” (Galatians 6:1) If you think you’ll never be burglarized, you’ll fail to take precautions to keep it from happening. Years ago there was scuttlebutt about an international “hit list,” a calculated plan for paid assassins to murder strategic world leaders.
Fire is an energy-producing gift of God that gives warmth and allows us to cook.